The Most Surprising Qualities Men Look For In Older Women

Many women spend their entire lives trying to answer a simple question: what do men want from women, really? Of course, the question isn’t all that simple because there is no singular answer. Men wnat different things from women at different points in their lives. And by the time a man is much older, he is looking for a completely different kind of woman than he might have looked for back in his twenties or thirties.

For example, do you know what men want from a woman who is 60 or older? It’s important to know the answer if you are someone whose husband died or simply somebody who’s still trying to find the right person. Fortunately, we’ve got the rundown on everything these older gentlemen would like to see in an older woman. Just keep reading to learn everything you need to know about what these silver foxes want!

Older men don’t want anyone to change them

You want to hear the single, three-word phrase that women always regret saying? No, it’s not “I love you,” but three cheers for your cynicism. No, the phrase is “I can fix him.” Far too many ladies fall for a bad boy and treat him like a project…someone to fix up until he’s husband material. This never really works out because most men don’t want to change. That goes double for men who are now enjoying their golden years.

What does that mean for women over 60? If you’re looking for a man, you need to make sure he is someone you love “as is.” Older men are going to be set in their ways and resistant to making any major changes to their lives and routines. On the upside, such men are usually very reliable: as long as you don’t try to change them, their loyalty to you will never change.

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Nothing is more important than companionship

It can obviously be difficult to get a good handle on what younger men want. Many of them want sex (and plenty of it), of course, but others want women who are basically Mom 2.0. Some men are very codependent and want a woman who will be with them every waking moment, and some just want a caretaker with whom they can enjoy the occasional meal. With all that being said, what are men actually looking for in a woman over 60?

It can all be summed up in one word: companionship. No man wants to be lonely, and fears of that only intensify as they get older. Therefore, men enjoying their golden years mostly want someone to experience life with. They want someone to share meals with, even if both parties say almost nothing. Similarly, they are happy to just watch TV or take a stroll through the park, and the only communication might be gently holding hands.

That doesn’t mean things won’t necessarily be more passionate with your own silver fox, of course. But you might be surprised at how many men just want a friend that they happen to live with! 

Tender moments can mean everything

Remember when we said an older man might be happy to do nothing else but hold hands with a woman over 60? That’s because they are perfectly content with very tender expressions of romance and understanding. While there are some exceptions, many older men aren’t looking for a whirlwind sexual relationship, and they aren’t expecting to tear things up on the dance floor. Instead, they want a strong and secure bond with someone who understands them like nobody else.

Sometimes, they want a woman to reach over and hold their hand at the end of a long day. Other times, they may be happy with a soft smile from across the room or a gentle kiss on the forehead. Ironically enough, this is the tenderness most men miss out on because they spend their whole lives trying to act cool and aloof. Once they get old enough, though, men appreciate true tenderness, and they are loyal and loving to any woman who can provide it.

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No masking required

Here’s one last dose of irony: both men and women spend most of their lives masking. Not literally, of course, though if you started going to work in a domino mask, we wouldn’t blame you. However, the masking we’re talking about is more metaphorical. Men and women alike go through life trying to wear different “masks” for different people. For example, you might act a certain way around your boss and a different way around your parents, both of which are very different from how you act around your closest friends.

One of the great things about getting older is that you stop masking. You know how old people have a reputation for speaking whatever is on their mind? That’s simply because they decided to say what they were thinking about and no longer care about covering up or sugarcoating things for other people. When it comes to women over 60, this is exactly what older men want: a woman who will say what she is thinking instead of worrying about how it will sound. As long as you are cool with him doing the same, this is a real win/win: both